What Do I Need To Bring To the Table? What Can I Offer?
Yes mates, you need to have something to offer. Not just for a potential partner, but really, for just about all aspects of your life. So, in speaking about having something to offer, along with your interesting activity that you are (will be) doing, you should have a job or some other way to earn an income. And you had better be able to pay all of your bills on your own. If you do not have a traditional job you should have something productive that you do during “normal” working hours.
Sorry fellas, but hanging out at home playing video games in your moms basement, watching sports in TV, or endlessly watching YouTube videos until the time that you venture out to your “outside” group activity will not be enough. People have enough issues dealing with their own lives and they do not want to think that they will also have to take care of you too.
For you artistic creative types, you will need to have a steady paying gig at least up until the time that you and your talent are finally discovered. And if you are the creative type it would be good for you to have a portfolio of some finished work to show people. One critical aspect of having something to offer is to not be in a position of having to take from others. Get your act together and be involved in productive activities. Life is not all fun and games.
One other important tip is to have some – at least, a bit of a – sense of humor. You do not need to be a stand-up comedian, but you ought to be able to tell a joke or two or be able to add some wit and charm to a conversation. Be careful. You do not want to insult people and although a little self-depreciating humor can be funny, do not over do it. Too much will come across as having low-self-esteem. You will need to mix it up.
Taking it to another level up, having a sense of humor can also apply to developing some flirting skills. Think about it. Flirting is humor with a direction and purpose! Flirting should be in good fun, never offensive or threatening and you need to know the limits of flirting when you do it. There is a fine-line between being the fun flirtatious guy and being a creep. Everyone will have their own sense of humor. Find yours and find the way to incorporate it in your conversations, again, both with friends and when on dates. Nobody likes a stick in the mud.
All Of The Topics That Have Been Covered In This Series Will Lead To One Thing That Is A Universal Trait That Is Admired By All People:
Self Confidence.
By taking care of how you look and behave, by having an interesting extra-curricular activity, by having something productive to do with your time and having a sense of humor, you will have or develop some self-confidence.
- Confidence comes from having done or doing something with your life.
- Confidence comes from knowledge and experience, and having failures before you have success.
You need to have all of these things to have confidence.
People are attracted to and are drawn to other people that know or at least have an idea about who they are and what it is that they are doing in this life. You do not need to an alpha-male, but being an active and valued member of your pack will help you go far in helping you meet other people and find the people that could become interested in dating you. And even better yet, maybe someone that would be a good date match for you will find you!
But first, you need to be a multi-dimensional person. By being such a person, by having interesting things to talk about, knowing yourself – who you are – and knowing what you have done and are doing, you will find yourself, almost, unknowingly becoming more and more confident and therefore interesting to other people..
Be careful. You do not want to come across as a blow-hard. You do not need to blurt out every little thing about yourself just because you have something to say, You also need to listen and let other people share their thoughts and opinions too. Being seen as arrogant, conceited and obnoxious is the absolute last thing that you want to do. Confidence is one thing. Coming across as a jack-ass is something completely different and must always be avoided.
Take some time to consider what has been written here. Get your plan together on how you are going to get yourself in dating shape. Start with one thing and master it before you work on another. Tackle them one item at a time. And of course, pick things that suit you and your personality type. You cannot change overnight into an extrovert if for all your life you have been an introvert, but you can grow and expand who your are, and that will probably be more than enough. So get to it!
If you have read this far thank you and congratulations! You should have some ideas now on how start to improve yourself to be ready for dating and meeting someone for romance. More importantly you should have some ideas on how to improve yourself as a person with regards to having better and more meaningful life for yourself that will lead to better and more meaningful relationships with other people, as well.
If you have not figured it out yet, the common theme here with regards to just about all manner of ways to better yourself is that it begins with you. Your success with other people is completely dependent on you and not with them. You have to want to change and you have to discover the best way for you to make the change that you want to make. It can be done. You can do it.
As we had started in Part 1 of the Dating Primer for Men, there are no magic bullets, there are not any one-liners that you can say or simple tricks that you can use to find a someone and have them like you too. This “dating truth” applies not only for dating, but for most if not all of the interactions and relationships that you have with other people. Figure out how you can improve yourself to better your chances of being more lucky.
Once you have figured out some of the things that you can do or changes that you can make in your life be sure to check our other articles and products that can help you to better Be A Man on almost all of the important aspects of your life.
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Conclusion
With you “having a life” and therefore having something of interest to some other people about you, those some other people will naturally become more interested in you.
With constantly improving yourself, being productive and being able to bring something to the table, you increase your chances of “getting lucky”
Read Them All…
Dating Primer For Men Part 1 – Get Lucky!
Dating Primer For Men Part 2 – What Is It That Someone Wants From A Suitor Anyway?.
Dating Primer For Men Part 3 – What Do I Need To Bring To the Table? What Can I Offer? – You Are Here
Things To Think About: What about you? What steps have you taken that have led to dating success? What steps did not work?
From the people that have been asked out on dates, what have you learned? What constructive advice can you offer to someone asking you on a date?
Be A Man – Do The Right Thing. Take Care Of Yourself. Be Ready. Be Interesting. Be Productive. Be Prepared.
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